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AFTER DIVORCE – WHAT’S NEXT?

Who said it would be easy?  Many have difficulty adjusting to life after divorce.  Depending on the type of relationship held prior to the divorce, reason(s) for the divorce and the livelihood of each  after the divorce, it can be devastating to one and a blessing to the other; devastating to both, or a blessing to both.  Whatever the cause may be for the divorce, an acceptance of it determines how one moves on with his/her life.

Some may be so used to being married and are totally lost when it comes to dating; whereas, others may be ready for an adventure in hitting the dating scene.  A casual relationship may appease some; whereas, others may long for a committed relationship.  The problem comes when one wants one type of relationship, but the one whom they’re trying to get with wants the opposite. To avoid a misunderstanding or the feeling of being lied to, cheated on or taken advantage of, one must be specific as to what he/she wants when dating.  When one settles on the type of relationship based upon what the other wants or expects; instead of remaining true to self, they establish precedents and/or practices that may become detrimental to a future relationship with that person.  Although it’s good to compromise; setting aside what you want just to please another usually results in unwanted and unnecessary pain, stress, bitterness and misunderstanding.

After a divorce, before getting back into the dating scene and/or beginning a relationship, the following question should be asked of oneself:   Have you allowed yourself a chance to get to know yourself as a single man/woman before getting into a relationship?  Do you have baggage that will only allow you to continue the patterns of behavior you have previously succumbed to?  Have you searched your heart and realized what causes insecurity, intimidation, mistrust, jealousy, hurt and pain within you, and what actions to take to nip in the bud?  Do you really know what makes you happy?  How is your spiritual life?  Are you being proactive or reactive in your prayer life?  What can you bring to the table in a relationship? What are you expecting from a man/woman?   These are just a few questions that will help you to become focused on moving on after divorce.  Until you are able to answer the aforementioned, you stand a chance of reliving your past.  All things are normally good at the beginning.  But LIFE happens after the infatuation wears off and reality sets in.  The question is, “Are you honest and open enough with self to attract the same honesty and openness from another?”

After a divorce, usually one immediately clings to another relationship to sustain the heartache occurred because of the separation.  However, sometimes, it’s because the one who they have clung to is the one who was a major contributor to there being an ex- spouse.  In reality “Did You Train Your Ex for Their Next Lover”?  That’s an interesting topic that I will dive into via future blogs.

Until then, take one day at a time learning and loving you again while fulfilling your desires and dreams.  Remembering the following scriptures:

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5

“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.” Proverbs 16:9

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” Ecclesiastes 3:1

 

OVERLOOKING BLESSINGS

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed Tuesday morning. Grateful for the gift of life.

Father, as many have awakened and have begun their Tuesday journey, they are grateful to U for the gift of life. They had been complaining about any and everything that they believed did not turn out in their favor; however, they continously overlooked the favor of life that U provide. They had been complaining about the paths in life that they have taken; however, they fail to realize that they were free to choose their own destiny, an dt U brought them through and out of darkness each and every time.

Father, help all to realize that they are blessed in every aspect of life. Help them to pray for discernment and understand that if was not for U, through Ur Son Jesus Christ, they would not have second chances to get it right.

“8 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9:8

~ Linda F. Walker
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WILL YOU TRUST AND OBEY?

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed morning! Grateful for Ur continued faithfulness.

Father, as many have awakened and have begun their Monday journey, they are mindful of how golden is Ur holy word. Within such, U spoke that U will make their enemies their footstool, and U did. Despite of them not actually being at the bottom or physically in a low level position, they were treated so ill, and in such a disrespectful manner that they mentally believed that they were low, trapped, and had no way of escape. However, U did the unimaginable. U allowed Ur children to come through and out of their mental bondage, and physically placed them in a position which leveled up and above their enemies. Ur holy word and Ur unconditional love blessed them far and beyond their own understanding and expectations.

Father, help all to realize that there will be storms in life that may cause them to question their faith. However, they shall never lose faith, for U are with them always. Help them to understand that Ur word is indeed golden; therefore, trust and obey.

“So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11

“A Psalm of David. The LORD said to my Lord, “Sit at My right hand, Till I make Your enemies Your footstool.” Psalm 110:1

~ Linda F. Walker
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RENEWED SPIRIT AND RESTORED FAITH

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed morning! Grateful for Ur love, guidance, and protection.

Father, as many have awakened on this blessed SONday morning, they are focused on worshiping U in spirit and in truth. Because they have endured so much trickery from their adversarial for such a long time, they are in need of a spiritual renewal. Because they have endured their darkest experiences caused by their adversarial for such a long time, they are in need of restoration.

Father, help all to always continue to seek U and adorn themselves with Ur armor and shield. Help them to understand that there is a purpose for all things; therefore, always trust and obey as they continue to pray for Ur guidance and Ur will to be done.

“And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” 1 Peter 5:10

~ Linda F. Walker
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CONTENTMENT AND COMPLACENCY

Father, praising Ur holy name for this blessed Saturday morning!! Grateful for another day to get it right.

Father, as many are up and about doing the things that will help them to move forward in life they are grateful for Ur discernment. They understand that complacency can take the throne over their contentment of Ur continued blessings. With such complacency, they fail to take advantage of the many opportunities, before them, that would allow them to advance spiritually, particularly, emotionally, and physically.

Father, help all to understand that it is good to be content with blessings, but complacency in life is comparable to plants that die out from the deprivation of water. Help all to remember that faith without works is dead, and never depend only on their past successes as their future progresses.

“I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth.” Revelation 3:15-16

~ Linda F. Walker
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REMAINING ENCOURAGED

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed morning. Grateful for Ur love.

Father, as many have awakened and have begun their Friday journey, they are encouraged. They have decided to let go of fear and embrace Ur love. They know that with all that they have been through, U have never foresaken them or lead them astray. They think about when they were destitute, U worked through Ur children to provide for their needs. They remember when they were plagued by trials and tribulations, U allowed the lessons from such to open up new doors of opportunity, both professionally and personally. They know that when they were stagnated in life, U aligned them with the right opportunity to expand their knowledge while bringing others from such stagnation.

Father, help all to understand that U know what they need and desire before they do. Help them to not become discouraged by what they are unable to do, but remain encouraged by what U have caused to be done.

“Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and will not be afraid; for the Lord God is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.” Isaiah 12:2

~ Linda F. Walker
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EXPERIENCING BAD TO RECOGNIZE GOOD

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed morning. Grateful for second chances.

Father, as many have awakened and have begun their Thursday journey, they are counting it all joy. They have realized that the purpose for their trials and tribulations was far rewarding than they could have ever imagined. Despite the pain, agony, and chaos, U provided them a waye of escape. They now have gained solace, peace, and harmony.

Father, help all who continue to relive their past experiences throughout their blessings. Help them to understand that they had to experience the bad to recognize the good, as well as see Ur grace in action.

“Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Phillipians 4:6

~ Linda F. Walker
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GOD IS FAITHFUL

Father, praising Ur holy name for another blessed Wednesday morning. Grateful for Ur continued favor.

Father, as many have awakened and have begun their daily journey, they are mindful of Ur love. Whenever doubt entered their mindset, U reminded them that U did not bring them this far to let them go. Whenever they were tempted to take a path of darkness, U shined Ur light brighter to keep them on the path of righteousness.

Father, help all to stay strong in faith knowing that U are always in their midst and that U will never foresaken them.

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”

~Linda F. Walker
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